Sex Education: Marie-Joan Schmidt on Youth, Autonomy, and Contraception

Marie-Joan Schmidt calls sex on social media “rambazamba” so that the algorithm doesn't block her—yet millions still listen to her. At the age of 24, she answers questions on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube that many adults would rather ignore: How does shame feel when it comes to the body? Why are young women more likely to turn to her than to their boyfriend if they have a contraception mishap? When most people think of sex education, they still think of boring biology classes or embarrassing brochures. But Marie-Joan shows that the real taboo is not talking about sex, but how little we talk about pleasure, insecurity, and self-determination. She's something like the “Dr. Sommer of Gen Z” – as Stern magazine calls her – but instead of anonymous expert answers, she offers open conversations, personal stories, and feminist power. Sommer of Gen Z” – as Stern magazine calls her – but instead of anonymous expert answers, she offers open conversations, personal stories, and feminist power. She shares her living room in Cologne with two rabbits, Turbo and Glöckchen, and pillows that read “Stay weird” and “Don’t be a dick.” For her, all of this is part of a new openness where shame no longer has a place. But the reality is different: If young girls are afraid to talk to their boyfriend after a contraceptive mishap and instead message Marie-Joan on Instagram, then something is going wrong when it comes to self-determination. Schmidt herself knows what it means to feel insecure – she is meticulous about ensuring that no details in her photos reveal her address, because she is afraid of stalkers. And yet she carries on, because she knows how urgently real sex education is needed. The catch: Many adults underestimate the extent of the longing for honest conversations about sexuality and consent. Anyone who thinks that a few sex education classes are enough to cover the topic hasn't understood how much young people are looking for reassurance and role models who will show them that shame and insecurity are normal—and that they can still own their desire. A surprising perspective that is rarely discussed: Gen Z is often portrayed as extremely informed and cool, but, in fact, they often experience even more insecurity, pressure to perform, and body shaming than previous generations due to social media. What is the takeaway? True sex education only begins when shame and the fear of making mistakes are no longer taboo. If, after reading this story, you feel that this topic applies to you, you can click I'm In on Lara Notes – this isn't just a simple "Like"; it's a decision to make this perspective your own. And if you find yourself talking to someone about Marie-Joan, “rambazamba,” or the contraception mishap, you can use Shared Offline on Lara Notes – that way, your conversation won't just be a memory, but also a statement. This article was originally published on Süddeutsche.de, and it took you 1 minute to read.